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S-Anon Checklist

 If you can answer "Yes" to even some of these questions, you may find help in S-Anon.

  1. Have you often felt hurt, ashamed or embarrassed by someone else's sexual conduct?
  2. Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic for fear that he or she will leave you?
  3. Have you sometimes found yourself searching for clues about someone else's sexual behavior?
  4. Have you ever fantasized, obsessed or worried about someone else's sexual problems?
  5. Have you ever made threats to others or promises to yourself ("If this happens again, I'll leave.") that you did not carry out?
  6. Have you ever tried to control somebody else's sexual thoughts or behavior by doing things like throwing away pornography, dressing suggestively, or being sexual with them in order to keep them from being sexual with others?
  7. Has your involvement with another person or their sexual behavior ever affected your relationship with your children, your co-workers or other friends or family members?
  8. Have you often lied to others or made excuses to yourself about another person's sexual conduct?
  9. Have you had money problems because of someone else's sexual behavior?
  10. Have you engaged in sexual behavior that makes you feel uncomfortable or ashamed, or is physically dangerous, fearing that if you don't the sexaholic will leave you?
  11. Have you ever felt confused and unable to separate what is true from what is not true when talking with the sexaholic?
  12. Have you ever though about or attempted suicide because of someone else's sexual behavior?
  13. Have you often used sex in order to have peace in the family or smooth over problems?
  14. Does sex (for example, thinking about it, doing it, talking about it or worry about it) play an all-consuming role in the relationship?
  15. Have you ever felt abandoned emotionally because of your partner's use of pornography or masturbation?
  16. Have you ever helped someone get out of jail or other legal trouble as a result of his or her sexual behavior, or feared this kind of thing could happen?
  17. Have you often thought that the sexaholic's behavior was caused by other people, such as friends or sexual partners? by society in general? by his/her job, religion, or birth family?
  18. Have you ever suspected that anyone was inappropriately sexually interested in any of your children?
  19. Do you feel alone with your problem?

 

S-Ateen Checklist

 If you can answer "Yes" to even some of these questions, you may find help in S-Ateen. 

  1. Have you often felt hurt, ashamed or embarrassed by the sexual behavior of a family member or friend?
  2. Are you afraid to upset the sexaholic for fear of his or her reaction?
  3. Do you hesitate to tell your parents or other adult about problems you are having because you feel they have their own problems to deal with?
  4. Have you sometimes found yourself searching for clues about a relative or friend's sexual behavior?
  5. Has a family member ever asked you to spy on the sexaholic or to tell what you know about the sexaholic's behavior?
  6. Have you felt that you were responsible for the sexual behavior of a parent, family member, or friend?
  7. Has one of your parents or family members shared adult information with you that made you feel uncomfortable?
  8. Have you lied to others or made excuses to yourself about another person's sexual conduct?
  9. Have you felt confused and unable to separate what is true from what is not true when talking with the sexaholic?
  10. Have you or other members of your family ever thought about or attempted suicide because of someone else's sexual behavior?
  11. Have you been sexually abused or been aware that other family members were being abused?
  12. Are you afraid to be alone with the sexaholic?
  13. Has a family member or friend been in jail or other legal trouble as a result of his or her sexual behavior, or do you fear that this kind of thing will happen?
  14. Are you having problems keeping up with schoolwork or other responsibilities due to problems at home?
  15. Have you felt responsible for the safety and happiness of your siblings or other family members?
  16. Does the sexaholic make comments or show that he or she is sexually interested in you or any of your friends?
  17. Do you often feel you hate one or both of your parents?
  18. Do you cover up your real feelings by pretending you don't care?
  19. Do you feel to embarassed to ask for help?
  20. Do you feel alone in your problem?

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